Have you noticed that when you feel like major crap, it’s really easy to hone in on things around you that are wrong/ugly/stupid/annoying, etc.? And, when you aren’t a big fan of yourself, it’s really easy to make things in your life less pleasant. I did this for years, I realize now thanks to that magical 20/20 hindsight, and ended up sort of depriving myself of yummy, comfortable, feel-good things. Though I have always gone out of my way to make others feel good, happy, comfortable, etc., I was sort of austere and unkind when it came to myself; I can sort of liken it to the anorexic who prepares delicious food for others, but doesn’t eat any herself.
With each day, I notice little things I can do to make my existence a more pleasant one…things I never really even had on my radar before! It’s cray-cray how a mindset shift can open a whole new world of WOW, ain’t it?! It’s all about doing things to create the feelings you want to feel every day.
Here are 7 mega simple things I have been doing to engage all of my senses and make my daily existence a lovelier one!
(WARNING: Some of these are sooo simple that I’m a bit embarrassed to just be incorporating them into my life at this here juncture, but alas, it is NEVER EVER too late! YAY!!!)
1.) Up the Ante on the Banal. I grew up with nice, soft, lovely-smelling laundry done by my mother, but, once I moved out, I washed my clothes with detergent only–I couldn’t be bothered fussing with extra steps and liquids. I got some free fabric softner the other day and decided to try it, and it blew my effing mind! It was like I was making out with Springtime when I took my clothes out of the dryer! The smell was intoxicating, and I actually felt happy…from a load of laundry! Pretty much a no-brainer. If I can get giddy when I do laundry thanks to fabric softner, then I’ma make it part of my routine!
2.) Revamp your make-up bag. I’m a big fan of a few make-up basics, and since I move around a lot, sometimes I’m unable to get certain products, and as a result tend to babysit them. This means that I end up having some of my make-up for waaaaay too long, and it eventually gets yucky and dry and isn’t really good anymore. Plus, after lugging them around for so long, sometimes powders break and get all over my bag, and it’s a big ol’ mess. Well, the buck stops here, folks! Last weekend I dumped all the old stuff and went to this lovely little boutique near my pad and bought some new key players for my face–matte red lipstick, a proper eye-brow pencil, some new blush. Not too expensive, but clean, and fresh and new! It makes going to the makeup bag to get ready a true pleasure. YAY!
3.) Turn a Task into a Ritual. I’ve always been pretty bad about moisturizing after a shower; part of it came from the thought that a shower should be a “get in, get out, BOOM!” sort of thing. Another part came from, well, just being lazy/not seeing the value in spending time on myself. Well, now I’ve decided to see bathing and prepping my bod as a lovely, luxurious ritual. I have been taking 10 or 15 minutes longer to moisturize and let my skin absorb, and it makes a huge difference. It’s not just a task anymore…it’s a wowy-zow experience!
4.) Make things smell lovely. Incense, essential oils, candles….man alive! Spritz your sheets with lovely essential oil sprays before making your bed. Light incense while you get ready in the morning. Buy dish-soap that tickles your nose’s fancy. Use a moisturizer that makes smells so delish, it makes you feel all light and giddy.
5.) Pay a little more. Since I grew up as a financially-challenged lass, my eyes were trained to go straight for the lowest price-tag when buying anything. Even after I started working and was no longer a poor kid, I still found myself buying based on the lowest price. That tendency still flares up from time-to-time, but I’m making an effort to first go for what looks lovely or yummy or pretty, and then look at the price tag afterward to decide if I want it. This makes you purchase things from a different space, abundance instead of lack.
6.) Buy flowers. They really transform your abode, and make it feel so lovely and floaty! And in my case, having flowers around pushes me to keep my pad tidier. There’s just something so generous about them…. you dig?
7.) Put on a dreamy musical backdrop. Strangely, I sometimes forget this is an option. Putting on music can seriously change everything! In my experience, it takes any situation or context to the next level! It turns regular ol’ meals or chats into events or moments to be savored relished, delighted in. Sigh.
How do you up the beauty ante in your life? I’d love for you to add to this list!!