Today is a MEGA special day…a celebration in badassery!!
My cup of giddiness, gratitude, feeling honored and excitement runneth over like nobody’s business.
I am beyond honored to present an interview with an amazing woman who I have been following and whose work has been fueling me up with emotional, spiritual and creative gasolina!! Her sincerity, frankness, style and overall WOWness never cease to amaze me!
Without futher ado, please enjoy this kick-ass interview with Poetress, Performing Speaker, Catalyst for Badassery…Christina Dunbar!!!!
Eyenie: You are an inspiring, hilarious, clever and smokin’ Catalyst of Badassery, and the language you use, and how you address your readers is so unique and FUN…but profound at the same time! (Man, you really are a badass!) Can you talk a little bit about what this amazing title entails, and how you help women achieve badassery? What does this achievement “look like”/feel?
Christina: Thank you so much, Eyenie, for your AMAZING questions. Love your brand and what you’re up to, lady!
So for me, badassery is about owning ALL the parts of ourselves as women; the sexual AND spiritual, the fierce AND kind, the shadow AND Light. Badassery is about honoring that we as women are not one thing, or one way, or one note. Badassery is about visibility; it’s about owning our right to take up space on this planet and be seen and heard. Badassery is about trusting our intuition. Badassery is for people who feel weird, wrong, and wild.
Badassery is permission to be you.
I love to be the catalyst for women to feel that freedom in their skin to be themselves. No apology. No holding back. Specifically, I work with women in their brands and businesses to find the places they are hiding out. Together we pinpoint the message, mission, and magic of the brand. We get clear on their voice and how they want to be seen. Because of my writing BG, I am able to create phrases and website copy that fully express my client’s unique voice so their brand stands out.
Right now, I am also working on a new service where we create major visibility uplevel for women through new website copy AND amazing video and photographs. I am soooooooo stoked for this because it is TRUE visibility.
Eyenie: All signs I have seen on your site, and in doing one of your programs point to, “Christina’s life is pretty kick-ass!” Can you tell us a little bit about a time in your life when things weren’t so kick-ass, and how you got to where you are today?
Christina: OMG, yes! I love to talk about on-line, airbrushed BS. Because while I LOVE to make my brand look pretty—like art—I definitely have my ugly moments. Recently, I wrote a blog post series about my sexual shame. For a loooooooong time, I was stuck in the “Good Girl” box. I was sensitive, I was quiet, I was emotional, I felt… wrong. I used to be so scared to speak up that my hands would shake. I used to feel so ashamed of my sexuality that I felt gross and literally had manifested pain in my ovaries from the shame. I used to doubt my artsy self so much, that I toned down my “performer” self in order to blend in.
After my dad (who was my best friend) passed away, I took myself on a healing journey (a journey that I deepen into each day) and I began to really look at WHY I was hiding so much. I was hiding from my dreams. I was hiding from my purpose. I was hiding from the spotlight. It was on this journey that I birthed my artist-preneur self. There were a lot of shadow parts that I had to bring in. There was a lot of shadow emotion that I felt—grief and anger—but it was through that emotion that I was able to honor all of me. And release old pains. I now get that women are emotional creatures and it’s only when we don’t understand how to honor our emotions in a healthy way that it becomes dangerous.
Cuz emotion? Is just energy in motion.
Eyenie: I am a firm believer in using style as a tool to express our soul and essence. How would you describe your Soul Style? How has it evolved over the years to reflect different phases in your evolution? Is style important to you?
Christina: Style is major to me. It’s one of the ways I freak my truth and get to be creative. The clothes you wear and the words you speak are big representations of your brand. They are a part of your unique self-expression and visibility (all things I love to work with women on) and so I love this topic.
For me, I just claimed that I want to be more Goddess Hip-Hop in my style. I like the long flowy dresses, but then I also like chunky jewelry and funky looks. I’m having so much fun with wardrobe now and am obsessed with shoes.
Again, when I was hiding out… I used to hide in my clothes too.
So I wouldn’t wear a certain dress to a “biz” event. I was very cautious with how I was perceived. Now, I’m all “get me the red lipstick and red sexy shoes” and I’m good to go.
Eyenie: One of my favorite things about your site are your Alter SheEgo(s)! You recently did a post about the three words that changed your life: “NOT ONE THING”. Could you tell us a bit about these Alter SheEgo(s) and how they can help us really accept and love our shadow selves?
Christina: “Not one thing” is the most FREEING principle if you truly get it. It means we can be both angry and kind.
We can be both sexy and motherly. It means we can take the parts of us that we resist and integrate them so we are whole.
Whenever I start to think in either/or, whenever I judge shadow parts, whenever someone acts “out of character”… I remember… we are not one thing. And my Alter SheEgo’s are fun representatives of that mantra. I have Ditzy Deena, Badass Tina, Calm Cool Chris and tons more characters that are parts of all of me.
Eyenie: This one goes out to Christina the Poetress…. Say you are standing on stage at a club and you know that one very WOW woman in the audience *needs* some powerful, magical, loving ass-kicking words to really switch to ON and start living life more fully. Can you give us some of your flow…a verbal riff… some slam love pretty please? GO!
Christina: First, love you for this Q.
Second, let me share a piece from a poem that is perfect for this set-up….
I see a beautiful badass who is a Goddess
Long red dress
Painted red lips
All sex AND soul
She’s ready to rock n’ roll
Shake up the world
As she heals the wounds of
I am ugly
I am wrong
I am dirty
I am shame
So tired of the guilt and blame
For being Eve and sin
You can’t lose to win
On society’s rules for us
And asking you
To freak your truth
Eyenie: What would you say to women who feel like they’re stuck, in a trance, and like nothing else is possibly for them and their lives? What are some things you do when you feel stuck or in a funk?
Christina: Sisterhood. That’s big. I have called in women that I feel can hold me up when I feel down. And I talk with them. I share things. I ask for support.
Healers. I’ve had some events in my life that created major grief and my body wasn’t letting go of that grief. So I worked with healers that did body work and that helped me release in a BIG way. I am so thankful for the healers of the world.
Movement. I love dance. Hiking. Yoga. All of that helps me get out of my head and into my body. When I’m in my body, it’s much easier to feel into the next step and what feels right to me.
Eyenie: You wear so many cool-ass hats… Can you tell us about what you’re working on right now, live, and online? What we should be looking out for??
Christina: At this time, I am prepping for a no-cost training call on May 23rd for women artists, entrepreneurs, and leaders that want to bust through visibility blocks , honor their unique self-expression, and be seen and heard in their brand and biz.
In the call I will…
- Share the 3 specific principles for women to embrace to go from secret to starlet
- Reveal my top 5 keys for badass, brave, and bold self-expression
- Help women access their artist with more ease (if you have an inner Lada Gaga but your brand feels blah-blah, this one’s for you)
I am super excited to gather with all the badass women out there to talk about this topic of visibility and badassery and being more self-expressed.
Doubting and conforming and procrastinating doesn’t have to stop you from getting seen in your biz.
If anyone in your community wants to join this complimentary class call on visibility, they can sign up right over here: http://ow.ly/kNztv
Christina Dunbar is a visibility expert, performing speaker, and artistpreneur that embodies full self-expression in all that she does. She is writing, co-producing and starring in her 1st one-woman show Sex, Shame, Money, Art in September 2013; which will be the opening night to a larger 2 day LIVE event for badass biz chicks and visionary women.
Christina is co-creator of the Bye Bye Good Girl Movement and founder of ChristinaDunbar.com. She has been named the “catalyst for badassery” and through her retreats, mentoring circles, and stage performances she ignites other artists, leaders, and entrepreneurs to find their voice, share their message, and become visibility vixens. You can learn more about her and her badassery at: http:www.christinadunbar.com